When it comes to having great style, knowing what types of colors, silhouettes, and pieces you love and how they all fit together, is only part of the equation. The other part is having the confidence to actually wear those things. Since my prior posts were all about forecasted trends, I’ve decided to give my #Rebels ways to just boost your confidence and set your inner style free.
However, I want to point out that I am no Guru on being confident, and like every other human-being, we all have our flaws. I too find myself always struggling with this, and want to share with you all what has helped me grow one step further each day towards embracing who I am and who I was meant to be.
Here are 5 ways to bring your style out from the confines of your bedroom closet to strutting it with confidence on the streets:
Stop waiting – dress your best right now
Whether it’s losing weight, moving, graduating or something else: Your life is not on hold just because you haven’t achieved all of your goals yet! Never wait until some arbitrary point in the future to embrace your style and dress exactly how you want to dress.
Separate your body discomfort from your style
Don’t allow the “ideal body image” to keep you from embracing your personal style. Because regardless of whether they are valid (probably not), they are beside the point. Being the so-called “mega beautiful”(barf! no one is perfect), is not a pre-requisite to having great style, plus dressing in tune with your own personal style will improve your overall confidence and thereby also how you feel about your appearance. Some words of advice: Who can truly define what is and what isn’t beautiful if everyone has their own opinion on beauty.
Scratch out the word “flattering”
If something is your style, you should wear it and ROCK it out – regardless of whether it supposedly “flatters” your body shape, makes you look two pounds thinner or draws attention to “flaws”. Because it’s not your job to look as close as possible to what’s currently considered ideal.
Stay away from the big ole’ C.O.P.Y and just be YOU
Obviously, it’s fine to get inspired by others, I’m a team player in that. But I believe that as women/men we are already way too often encouraged to emulate other “more successful, good-looking” women/men rather than think for ourselves and make our own decisions about what to wear and what to look like. When you are trying to imitate someone else you are also falling into the comparison trap. Comparing yourself is never a good idea if you care about your self-esteem. Especially, when your point of comparison is a celebrity(toughest one for me to break still…I blame Enews for that lol) you can only lose. Just think, if you are looking up to someone who had a whole team of professionals( for those not as fortunate that is) working on their look, your style game will only be as strong as that of a one-man band… pitchy, zero flow, and the hideous tambourine bangs placed at points you never knew were possible.
Get rid of your closet demons
If your closet makes you feel bad about yourself whenever you open it, it’s time to make a change! Now we all joke about hoarding, but let’s face it folks we may not be like the ones seen on A&E but we all have a little hoarder mentality in us. So first start out small and work your way up: Throw out clothes that are too tight(don’t be the person to say “I’m going to diet and eventually fit into them”)…I know and you know that they will just end up collecting dust, but if you really need that dieting push minimize to only 2 or 3 pieces. Also, throw out clothes you wear to cover up places on your body you don’t like or to blend in. This will set you back and will only get worse with time. Be ruthless! And reserve your closet space for pieces that make you happy from now on